“Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors they are established” (Proverbs 15:22).
Two friends recently faced decisions. The first plunged ahead, neither asking nor accepting advice, human or divine. The decision was based on personal desire and money. The second friend approached her situation with caution and prayer. She also sought counsel from family and trusted, godly friends. It’s too soon to know the outcome in either case, but it’s easy to see which has the better chance of a positive outcome.
What we consider a “small” decision may actually change the course of our life. Click To TweetWhat we consider a “small” decision may actually change the course of our life. Rushing ahead without first seeking guidance through prayer and godly counsel can lead to disaster. There is wisdom in knowing when to respect the advice given, even when it may not seem important or logical.
The story of Esther, the Jewish maiden chosen queen, illustrates how accepting good advice from a trusted advisor is important. When taken into the court of King Ahasuerus, Esther accepted the advice of her relative Mordecai to conceal her heritage. “Esther had not revealed her people or family, for Mordecai had charged her not to reveal it” (Esther 2:10, NKJV). Because she trusted his advice, she saved her life and the lives of her people.
Steps in Making Good Decisions:
How do we make good decisions? Begin by asking these four questions.
1. What does God say?
We must first pray and examine the Word. If Scripture commands something, there is no question. If Scripture forbids something, we have the answer and need to obey. (Read Proverbs 8:14.)
2. What do advisors say?
Something may not be unscriptural, but neither may it be wise. This is why it’s good to seek the advice of others. (Read Proverbs 11:14.)
3. What do circumstances say?
Has a door opened—or closed? Not all open doors are God’s will, so that cannot be the only determining factor. Carefully consider all open doors. Some may be closed for now. This could be a matter of timing rather than something God never wants us to do. It is important to never get ahead of God.
4. What does common sense say?
Does the matter seem reasonable? Yes, God may ask us to step out in faith to fulfill His plan, but He gives us a sound mind to know His good and perfect will. Remember, if something is God’s will for us, He will provide the way for it to come to pass.
Paul advised in I Thessalonians 5:21, “Prove all things; hold fast that which is good.” This is advice we should all follow.
For additional study:
Examine biblical examples of how others made decisions based on the advice of others:
Rehoboam (I Kings 12)
King Saul (I Chronicles 10:13–14)
Ahaziah and Athaliah (II Chronicles 22:2–4)
Naaman (II Kings 5)
Job and his wife (Job 2:9–10)
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